Last week we discussed planning... but what happens when you've done all the planning and still don't get the outcome you were hoping for?
Today we discuss rolling with the punches, re-framing failure and how to learn from it towards our next success, and most importantly - finding joy regardless of the outcome.
We all have daily irritations of things not working out quite the way we wanted them too, but we're talking about the big things, the ones that knock you off your course and make you question your existence.
We're talking about the earth collapsing from under you. Well, metaphorically anyway. I don't think we can help the literal earth collapses. But we all know no matter how hard we try, not everything in life is up to us.
Sometimes we must rely on others, and not too often, they will fail us. So here's our advice for picking yourself up again:
- Allow yourself to mourn your loss (whatever it was). Feel all the emotions that come from your loss, and process them. I started speaking on the podcast about this, but you might be interested in catching this interview, where Robert Webb discusses his book "How not to be a boy" and talks a lot more about gender issues in expressing emotions.
- Try imagining your situation as though it weren't happening to you, but to someone else and try to give yourself the advice you'd give them. Here's the clip from My Mad Fat Diary I was talking about. Well, it's not the exact one as I couldn't find it, but it's the same scene.
- Make a list of all the good things to come out of this situation. Seriously. All the potential possibilities, all the lessons you learned, all the experience gained. You're doing this to remember that you're always learning, growing and even though things didn't turn out the way you wanted them too, everything is still okay in the grand scheme of things.
- Remember that failing at something does not make you a failure.
We can't wait to see you all over on our Facebook page, joining us for the facebook live we'll be hosting next week!
Love, Maya Xx
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